Many years ago, I saw a movie called Fireproof. It didn't get that many stars and was kinda cheesy but Kirk Cameron was in it and he was a boy crush of mine back in the day, so I rented it one night and actually got my husband to watch it, too. I think he thought it was ok 'cuz it was about fire fighters. I, on the other hand, LOVED the idea behind the movie....The Love Dare. Fast forward to a few months ago when I saw a post from someone on Facebook who was going to try it and thought, hey, we may not be on the brink of divorce but what couple couldn't benefit from something like this?
So, the thing is you're supposed to read the book and do the homework every day without your spouse really knowing what you're doing. However, honestly even if they find out it doesn't really matter because the truth behind the matter is that you're still willing and trying to do the Love Dare to help your relationship. And, a lot of the daily homework is to pray for your spouse and your marriage and ultimately...you.
In all honesty, some days I pretty much sucked at the Love Dare.
Yep, there were some of the dares that I didn't even attempt or made excuses why it just wouldn't work for me/us. I had some half-hearted attempts at the dares that included only things to work on for myself. And, I definitely had days where I was so frustrated and sad that the last thing I could think about was doing something nice for him.
And, then, there were the dares that I learned a LOT from. Actually, even if I didn't follow through with all of them, I learned a LOT from them. There were whole-hearted attempts at prayer and self discovery. There were the days where I really didn't feel I had it in me but I did it anyway. And, there were definitely days when I knew our relationship was better and stronger because of it.
What I discovered more than anything...and this probably goes without saying....something like this doesn't end after 40 days.
So, I'm starting over. I'm recommitting to doing the dares that I CHOSE to not do. I'm recommitting to those first few days of not saying anything negative to him. I'm recommitting to the challenge of learning more about myself in my relationship. And, I obviously don't care now if he finds out since this is pretty public...lol.
AND, what I'm also excited about is that I want people to join me in this. I'm paying it forward by doing a 60-day Love Dare challenge starting next Monday, August 18th...for the ladies out there...OR the men!! Joining me in this doesn't mean you and your spouse are having problems! As I mentioned above, this is a challenge to strengthen your relationship and learn more about yourself and your spouse along the way. I do HIGHLY recommend buying or downloading the book to follow along better with the premise but the daily dares won't be completely by the book. Please be aware this challenge will be very spiritual and will contain Christian devotions.
I've been doing Biggest Loser challenges for years and most recently more focused health & fitness challenges as a Team Beachbody Coach but what I am realizing about myself is that I want to help share things with people in more areas of their lives as well. And, this is just the first of many new challenges to come! I will be doing a Love Dare for Parents, 90 Days to a Happier Life, and a Financial Freedom one soon to come! If you're interested in joining any of these challenges, please email me at fitstrongpink@gmail.com or msg me on Facebook.
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